My "love" stroy !

Lol ! Yeah..herez my love story in Eviz words..this is wat he has to say..

"Once upon a time there lived a boy who fell in love with a girl. She too fell in love with him in time. In the beginning it was like a fairlytale, the boy bought her candy, flowers, sang to her, made her laugh and did every other thing a boy would do for a girl whom he loved. In short he never failed to sieze the slightest opportunity to bring a smile to her face no matter how short-lived or faint it was.
As time went on, they thought their relationship had grown - transcended - beyond what people would call ordinary. The boy now felt that he "loved" the girl and that the girl knew how MUCH he loved her, and that was all that mattered and so he stopped buying her candy. The girl was disappointed, but after all, what WAS a box of candy to two people who were so much in "love" with each other...love transcends everything. Time passed and the boy now thought he "loved" her so much that he didnt need to get her flowers every now and then - after all what were a few plants between two people who were in "love" with each other like they were. The girl took it in a stride...she too felt the same way...like her boyfriend said, what ARE a few plants to justify the strength of their love.
More time passed and the boy now thought he loved her so much that he didnt need to see her as often as he usually did...they WERE after all together in spirit, and both of them knew how much they loved each other...it was pointless, he said, to bother about such mundane things as meeting everyday. The girl was disappointed but yet again she reasoned the same way she had reasoned before and convinced herself that it was all not necessary.
The boy then decided to cut off all the "little" things as he called them...Our love, he said to her, is pure...how can all these stupid little things justify something as GREAT as our love...You know i love you, so why do i need to even do these things...such a waste of time they were...and so silly too now that you think of it...At this the girl was saddened...but then she lit up as she too thought - the boy must be right...she didnt need all those "little" things...after what was a small song, a tickle in the ribs, a small kiss, a small hug...Insults they were for something as great as their love...didnt they DEMEAN the purity of their love, she thought...basing their "true" love and feelings for one another on something as silly as those...so away with them, they thought....After all they had their love and that was all that mattered...
Time went on and both the girl and boy, though seeing less of each other now, than ever before, took solace in the fact that they were together in spirit and were after all in love...The boy then began to understand the purity and the transendence of love...true love, he thought wasa unification of two hearts in spirit so that they were together no matter what the separation in time or distance...what were time and space after all...puny little concepts explained by physics with a few equations as their basis...Their love was pure and spiritual....they didnt need to physically try to overcome these worldly obstacles...After all they paled in comparison to the might of their true love...And so the boy decided that he didnt need to be physically near her, since they were close in spirit. And for a good measure he also concluded that they didnt need to keep meeting each other because their love even transcended time...
And so it was that the boy and girl mutually agreed on the strength of their love that they never needed to see each others faces again...they were afterall "truly" in love and both of them knew that the other one loved them...that was all that mattered...Was ANYTHING at all great enough to justify their feelings for each other?...
And so time passed on ab the boy and girl carried on with their lives....never seeing each other again, never laughing with each other, never holding each others hands, never watching a movie together, never watching the sun rise and set, never sharing an icecream, never falling asleep in each others arms, never looking at each others faces for the millionth time and still feeling happy, never comforting each other, in fact never sharing ANYTHING at all in their lives...and why should they?...they had their love after all and it was enough...
And hence the boy and girl, together in spirit and still very much in "love" with each other lived happily ever after. "

Oooo ! Im madly in "LOVE" ! lol !

Love or Trust ?

Okay, this is a tough one.
When you are in love with someone, at what point do you trust them or does being in love mean you trust them anyway?

And at what point does that stop, once you've been cheated on once or do you become less trusting ?

I personally believe you can trust someone and love them but they don't go together necessarily - you have to build trust but love is unexplainable, you know it's there.
Say suppose there's this person u Love but dont trust and there's another person u dont love but Trust a lot..which one do u think is better ? Which one u think its better to opt for in the long run?
Jai, preetam, harish ...Im waiting for ur feedbacks !

Argh !

Gah. I don't know. I just haven't been in too good of a mood lately.But it is hard to be in good spirits when I know there is someone scrutinizing almost everything I do.
I hate when it gets me in a bad mood, because I don't WANT to be in a bad mood, and logically I know its not worth feeling bad over. But I can't help it. And then once I'm in a bad mood, I start thinking about everything else that is wrong in my life, which only perpetuates the crappy mood.
I don't know what it is about here anymore. Maybe there are too many reminders of things I'd rather forget, or maybe there's just a negative energy here. I don't know, but whatever it is, I want to get away from it , from this state of mind this place puts me in. I can't wait until I'm able to feel good again and not feel bad about it.

By Susie and Otto Collins

TO BE LOVED :

To have a relationship that really works loving your partner is not enough. You have to love the other person exactly how they want to be loved. Just as importantly, they have to love you how you need to be loved. That’s what makes our relationship work. We’ve taken the time to specifically ask our spouse how they want to be loved and that’s what we do.
When marriages fail most people spend some time analyzing the reasons why. That’s what we did as well. We realized our previous partners loved us. But, we just came up feeling empty inside. Our partners loved us from their frame of reference. But, not ours.

Otto’s former wife believed in being prepared for the worst. Each winter she packed a small survival kit for the car complete with coffee can, a candle and matches to keep him warm in an emergency. Also included would be a couple of non-perishable snack food items like cheese and peanut butter crackers so he wouldn’t starve. Packing this survival kit was an act of kindness and love from her point of view. From Otto’s point of view this wasn’t important at all because he said repeatedly to her that “ he would go for help rather than being stranded in a car for several hours or more”. So, is there any fault here? No, just what was important to her wasn’t important to him.

Even before we got together we started making lists of how we wanted to be treated by a partner. One thing that was important for Susie was, If we were at a party or a function with a large group of people that even if Otto was across the room he would sporadically make eye contact with her and acknowledge her. Whereas Otto wants to be greeted with kisses and hugs when he reconnects with Susie when we’ve been apart.

Before you can expect your partner to love you how you want to be loved, you have to first find out yourself. Once you know how you want to be loved, the next step is to tell your partner. The key is communication. Unless you tell your partner how you want to be loved there is no way you can expect them to love you in this manner. After all, most of us are not mind readers.

Relationships are a two way street. Both you and your partner have to love each other the way you want to be loved. When one person’s needs are met and not the other’s resentments are created. We found that talking openly and honestly about our needs is vital to the relationship. We also found that, sometimes compromise is necessary to experience what Stephen Covey calls a “Win-Win” relationship.

Sometimes you simply cannot give what your partner needs. In Susie’s previous relationship sailing was the most important thing to her partner but not to her. She simply could not make sailing her passion to the exclusion of everything else. This was a core issue in their relationship. This was an issue that eventually divided them forever.

Love lesson Number 1 :

1) We suggest that before you enter into any relationship that you first make a list of how it is you want to be loved.

2) Commit to sharing this list with your partner or potential partner and talk about why the things on the list are important.

3) Make sure you follow through and do the things that you’ve committed to do.

Quote Of The Day !

The only thing in this world that is indestructable is the past. It can never be redone or changed, so when making it, be sure you'll be proud when you look at your invincible creation.

( Thank you Vishu ! )